I think most, if not all of what is written about twin flames is a fantasy for unfulfilled and lonely people. Most of the comments and posts on social media are just so whiny and totally missing the point of what the connection actually is. I'll start making a distinction of twin "soul" instead of "flame" since the latter comes with a romantic and immature connotation.
What I agree with in my research is that some people think twin souls occur at the beginning of a soul's formation - just like twins are formed in our physical world. I think that happens. Others think, and it's my personal experience, that if a soul decides to take on more learning, it splits its essence to experience two different lives at roughly the same time. Twice the lifetimes, twice the learning. We do split our essence/soul anyway when we come to earth; part of us remains in the "time" between time to learn, encourage our 3rd dimension selves (acting as our higher self), and greeting loved ones when they pass over. So it's logical to me that the part of our soul that we choose to incarnate on earth with can also split into two lives. I'm doubtful there can be more than two lives at the same time because that would be way too much overload, and the soul would be spread too thin. But who knows…
I don't think everyone has a twin soul just like not everyone is a twin here on earth. Only some souls - maybe a small minority at some point in their learning - decide to split their essence into two lives living on earth at the same 3rd dimension time. (Maybe the more masochistic ones - haha! Twice the lives, twice the pain).
I think the concept of twin souls has been co-opted into the flame aspect of romantic love and completion. Based on my research, so many who follow this New (c)Age belief are desperately lonely. Usually they're women who are still stuck in that waiting for Prince Charming to rescue them cycle. Men have it, too, of course, in their Peter Pan not wanting to grow up, with them seeking a Mommy in their mate, someone who will coddle them and let them off the hook when it comes to deep intimate soul work and conversation. But whether female or male, they're lonely and they want to have hope that someone will complete them. They want to feel special. They want an excuse to keep hanging on to a shitty (twin flame, co-dependent) relationship. They seek validation and wholeness from someone else, instead of looking within.
Part of the twin flame dynamic is something called an awake twin and a runner twin. Sure, I can believe that. We're all different, but just because you're spiritually awakening and aware doesn't mean your friends and/or family members are. We all know people who don't want to go within and examine their messy, painful bits in order to heal, so they run away, distracting themselves with work, always being busy, etc. So, I don't believe that whole runner thing is just for the twin flame "experience." It seems like the whole "runner" idea is keeping a codependency alive and telling them to just hang in there, blahblahblah, or how noble you are that you aren't running away. "You go, girl. You're the long suffering one and sooner or later, he'll come running back to you, and then you'll have the power because he’ll be forever grateful to you." WTF!?
Some people say there's a runner because the twin flames are total opposites of each other, yet they also say we're the same. Um, okay. I totally understand not wanting to deal with someone who may call us on our own shit and mirror back to us our weaknesses. Plus, sometimes it's hard to get along with someone who is very much like ourselves. But once we do the inner work, we don't mind as much. Similarly, we welcome when someone shows us where we're falling short. When my son was young, he would call out my hypocrisy, and I actually appreciated it...much to my chagrin sometimes! I don't know why an adult couldn't appreciate it when their friend or intimate partner points out areas that need to be worked on. We all have shortcomings, so why get all bent out of shape? If it's said in love and in sincerity, then contemplate it. It may or may not be true. This runner dynamic isn't just for the twin flame experience, but it's used to further hook the lonely ones, saying, "Oh, he can't handle it. You're just soooo wise and long suffering. Just keep at it. Keep pining away, and you'll eventually be rewarded." (Gag!)
As to twin souls being polar opposites, I don't believe that either. Sure, there is one who embodies the masculine and one who embodies the feminine, but I think that's the extent of it. I don't think, when we split our souls (or are born twin souls), that one is good and one is bad. Why these New (c)Age purveyors of twin flames wants us to believe this is, again, in keeping with the awake vs. runner theme. I hardly doubt one twin is angelic and aware and the other is a serial killing pedophile. That's what it boils down to what they want us to believe, stating that we’re opposite each other. Ummmm... And if you're attracted to a serial killing pedophile, I don't think twin soul has anything to do with it.
We all have our shadow side; this is nothing new. But to think that our shadow side is now embodied in a living, breathing person with whom we have a connection is a very dangerous teaching. But harmful teachings are nothing new in the New (c)Age movement. Their concepts are designed to keep people small, to keep people diving shallow deep, yet appearing as if it's deeply authentic. One example is the buzzwords du jour "my truth." Uh, sure. Lenin and Stalin had their truths, too. That doesn't mean it's THE truth. There are your truth, my truth, and THE truth; and sometimes they're the same. Truth takes no sides; it simply is. There should be no possessive in front of "truth." Truth is not a possession. It is neutral and independent of anyone or anything. How about instead of saying "my truth," why not "This is what I believe," or "This is my experience." Why try to hitch your opinion, which is just that - your OPINION - onto something that is eternal - THE truth? Sounds to me like people are trying to feebly bolster their confidence in what they believe. Boldly and proudly state what you believe. Stop trying to ride the coattails of TRUTH. But I digress...
So many use twin flames as an escape, as a rescue so they don't have to do the healing within - to become whole within. They want someone else to do it for them and to complete them. When I was new to this twin flame concept, I followed someone on Facebook who was an "expert." She has a few so-called spiritually enlightened groups on fb. The thing is, she was married, and her brother was her twin flame. Well, that's fine. It doesn't have to be romantic at all. But she kept pining away for him, longing for his touch, etc. OMG! And most everyone on her feed - mostly women - were supportive of her. Geez! Because, after all, a twin flame is a twin flame, and they should consummate their union. Umm.…
As to my connection with my twin soul, he is not my usual type, though he has grown into being that just because I see into his soul. This 3rd dimension world is not reality. What's real is what happens on the soul/etheric level/dimension, whatever you want to call it.
I admit I did my own pining away - hoping that we'd connect online and then it would trigger his awakening, but it wasn't do-or-die/be miserable for the rest of my life type of pining that twin flame devotees have. I recently realized I had to move on from that hope of us connecting on this earthly plane in this incarnation and not stick around for him to "catch up." In so doing, I could tell he sensed this change in me. I believe it acted as a catalyst for some of his recent growth, but it'll take awhile for that to trickle down to his 3rd dimension mind. I don't believe he has anyone in his life who is authentically trying to dive deep into soul matters, which makes things even more difficult for him. Our connection is now becoming more authentic. I feel him - his higher self - more now than ever, and sometimes when I start my day, I swear he's right there in my living room, sitting on my sofa, with his long legs sprawled out in front of him, waiting to tell me good morning. No, I don't actually see him, but his presence is very palpable. At first, I was pissed cuz I was thinking, "Dude, I'm trying to move away from you, so GO!" But he has been insistent and, in so doing, he has shown me a lot of things that I didn't know about some of our past lives, things that he felt I needed to forgive him for. I have, but he hasn't forgiven himself. That's work for him to do.
We twin souls don't need the physical. Sure, I thought it'd be lovely to be with him physically because there's true communion on one level that most don't have, but if he can't embody a more mature self in the physical now, then it's chasing an illusion. I'm not going to be a rebound of a rebound of a rebound ad nauseum. (From what I've read, he's never outside of a relationship for long, and he's had multiple marriages).
So many of these twin flame devotees are chasing after yet another co-dependent relationship. This time they cloak it in spirituality, with the "awake" twin trying to love and accept the "runaway/unaware" twin so much that s/he will awaken and become the dream lover and be forever grateful. Ugh! They're trying to convince themselves that they've grown and awakened and are attracted to a spiritual relationship, when really it's just the same ol' same ol'...but this time it has a halo on it!
Anyway, miracles can happen and my twin can suddenly have a dark night of the soul. He totally grows from it and starts to live his authentic, divine purpose. But that event, in itself, would take quite awhile to level out and anchor in, and he'd have to heal from all that tumult, which would make him NOT good relationship material for quite awhile. Hey, barring a miracle, maybe when we're in our 80s we can tango!
This most recent growth for me has brought a more deepening connection, and I think my twin soul and I both made the agreement/realization to connect more strongly in the ethers and to help each other grow in this earthly dream. All twin souls need to do that at this time to help usher in the new heart-centered, soul-centered earth; however, that union doesn't need to be in the physical. In fact, the physical may hinder it because we, as humans, would be too distracted by the physical. There's no longing, no whinging about we could really move the world if we physically reunite. That's what so many of the twin flame people say, but bullocks! We can do much stronger, revolutionary work in our meditative connections. Besides, it's hard to meditate and do energy work when you're boinking like rabbits!
I'll share a little bit about my awakening to my twin soul since it's very different from most people's. I was perfectly content with my life and didn't need a romantic partner to be fulfilled. In fact, several years ago, I had made my peace that I may be outside of a romantic relationship for the rest of my life. I wasn't at all sad about it because it was my choice. Quite frankly, a relationship would get in the way if I couldn't find anyone who was as deep diving into soul/metaphysical/esoteric stuff as I was. To have this twin soul experience land unexpectedly in my lap has been quite jarring and not something I was looking for.
For the longest time I was very frustrated that the Infinite Creator had to show me I had a twin soul if we weren't to be together. The discovery was all quite by accident. To make a very long story short, I realized I had a twin soul back in November, 2020. He is a somewhat famous musician, especially many years ago, so I was able to find out a lot about him. No, this is not some fangirl crush because it came unexpectedly. For the most part, he’s not my type, and the experiences I’ve had have been like no other. I’m a very self-analytical and reflecting person, so I threw myself into trying to figure out what was happening. I finally realized we were twin souls.
Anyway, he's a wordy fellow, so I could read a lot about his experiences. What first made me aware something was different was, when watching his and his band's videos, I could feel as if I was playing the instrument he plays. It was surreal, and it was creepy. I didn't like that. But I got used to it, and I read more about him. He and I had the same personality, the same way of posing for photos, a lot of the same facial expressions, etc., especially when we were in our 20s and 30s. Sync winks came so much that they were almost daily. And they weren't "signs" that you had to really stretch for - like "Oh, it's raining in my city today, and it's raining where he lives. Gosh golly, that's a sign! We’re twins!" Uh, no; that isn't a sign. My signs were much more specific. For instance, I listened to a youtube tarot reader/intuitive, and from her many readings, she would give me sync winks from the Universe - from the name of his band, his first and last name, the instrument he plays, his hobby, his career, etc. Another sync wink was from an Akashic record/energy healer. She did a video on how to tell if your higher self is speaking to you. I zoned out a bit, and then she said something that called my attention right back in. She used a sentence that mentioned one of my twin soul's hit songs. The title is NOT something you would say in a regular conversation, especially since it's absolutely not grammatically correct in the sentence she uttered. And there’s also the fact that his band’s first hit single was released on my birthday.
In working with a wise friend, she helped me fit together some puzzle pieces and affirmed what I had been intuiting. It's always nice to have outside confirmation, especially from someone whom you respect. It's interesting that she felt he had been a troubadour in some past lifetimes. Recently I was reminded of a very obscure song from his band that is very troubadour-like. I read the words with fresh eyes, realizing it was a message from his higher self to me now. It's a blend of that past life and this life. When I first came across the song, I knew it was about me, but had no idea how the heck it would be. In going to the Akashic, I saw one of our lifetimes where I was a noblewoman who was sentenced to death for my adulterous affair with the twin soul. (Some of the band members were in that lifetime as well). He confessed our affair in order for his life to be spared (then exiled); he was still fear-based from a previous life as a Cathar. (We were actually twin brother and sister in that lifetime). Anyway, the song is, as I said, troubadour-like and even mentions something very specific from that lifetime. Hmmmm... But after that lifetime, he said he could never be with me again for fear that he would cost me my life again. (He needs a lot of guilt and pain clearing on that, which I'm doing for him. But, of course, he needs to do his work and clearing, too).
So why did the Universe want me to know I had a twin soul if we couldn't get together in this life? I felt maybe it was to dive deeper into my spiritual purpose, but I felt there was something more. Recently, I've come to the conclusion I was shown so that I can better harness my energy to bring in a new timeline of love and peace, a new Mother Earth with freedom and self-sovereignty, with people embodying voluntaryism/agorism, going back to the natural way. When I do energy work, I now more strongly feel my twin soul next to me, helping me to anchor it in. He is very much my anchor. Since we divided our soul to experience many lifetimes to advance our learning, our soul in each of our bodies is weaker than had we not divided. It's like you have a glass of water and pour half the water into another glass. You can still fill both glasses with more water, since there's more room. I think that's one of our purposes of living separate lives - to strengthen and grow our energy in our container, our glass. If we do the work, we can "make" more water, for lack of a better word. Our water/energy now has this extra room to grow more. But when we work in the energetic, spiritual realms, we're not as strong with our half glass of water if we're twin souls. So when we join forces in a larger "container" in the spiritual realm, we come in with the added energy we grew. Thus, we're more powerful joining together because we have more energy to work with. It's added and strengthened when we merge our souls in the ether.
So, that's my experience, in a rather large nutshell. I think when people first find out they have a twin soul - if it's genuine - they'll have the longing to be together in the physical, but then it needs to mature. If it doesn't, I really doubt it's a twin soul experience. You don't need to be together physically in this lifetime to work your magic as a twin soul. If you argue that you do, then I suspect you're much more hung up on the physical - on lust - and is that really an eternal, unconditional love that has burned into your soul?
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